Relationship Fundamentals: Togetherness and Differentiation
關係的基礎元素: 連結與自我區分

We need relationships and togetherness. We need the support, care, and love of other people and a sense of belonging. Yet, relationships can be a double-edged sword! It brings some benefits, yet also constraints.

How can we follow our internal directions, especially when relationship pressures are mounting, forcing us to give up what we have been doing and restore to old habitual ways?

In this conversation, our guest, Dr. Daniel V. Papero, shares the act of differentiation, the effort to be oneself, to be the most thoughtful and responsible person that one can be, while also allowing the other person to be who they are, without blaming our family or running away from it.

我們需要關係和與人連結。我們需要他人的支持、關心和愛護，以及歸屬感。然而，人際關係可能是一把雙刃劍！它帶來了一些好處，但也帶來了限制。

我們如何才能遵循我們的內在方向，尤其是當關係壓力越來越大，迫使我們放棄我們一直在做的事情並恢復到舊的慣常方式時？

在這次會談中，我們的嘉賓 Daniel V. Papero 博士分享了達至「自我區分」*的行為 – 努力做自己，成為最有心思和最負責任的人，同時也讓另一個人可以做自己，不責備我們的家人或逃避家庭，

*「自我區分」(Differentiation of Self) – 等同情緒成熟、情理兼備，能夠適當表達本身的立場並能與人有良好的關係。